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Such a thought provoking piece about how temporarily adapting to others to maintain a relationship can alter us. Sometimes, permanently.

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For better or worse, right?

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A powerful piece; you paid the dearest price.

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I guess someone had to

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We all did -

it's good to see you back

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Damn Sudana. When you write about being bad, you’re very very good.

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ha. truth is I wish I knew how to write something “good” without feeling like a hack lol

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Alright can you turn this one into a book plz I need it

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Only if we can get ‘94 Winona Ryder to play me in the screenplay adaptation

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I second this motion!

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I believe in you Sudana, you'll find her.

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hey old friend, good to see you here

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Stay positive, Kiddo. There are lots of good guys (and gals) out there. You don't need that Bad Boy shit.

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Absolutely not. This was ages ago anyway Thomas ;)

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Oh my god. Here i am crying my eyes out again. You’re one of the strongest people i know.

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strong or stubborn - the verdict is still out ;)

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strong!!! although being stubborn makes us stronger in a way… we do have to fall over and over to get back up even stronger sometimes!

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This was perfect 🖤

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I stumbled upon this and I'm so sad and glad I did. It's so honest. It's also familiar ...so many feelings about my life long ago that are boxed away mostly. That is until I come upon a writer like you who has the courage to unbox. I still have much work to do all these years later.

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Powerful stuff, nice writing

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Sudana, this one really got me. it's fascinating how, for some people, a woman can so easily swing between "angel" and "crazy b!tch" just based on personality, on not even betrayal or wrongdoing but on the time of day or whatever...

I love your writing so much

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Molly thank you, I very much enjoy yours too

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This is magnificent to the nth degree

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Ahhh Will! That’s so huge for me coming from you!!

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Wow. I felt this one viscerally. This spoke to a very young, broken version of myself. The good girl gone bad, seeking a validation she never needed in the first place, and getting lost in someone else's projection of what makes her desirable. This was cutting, in the best way.

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Shelby thank you so much, you said what I was trying to in 2/3 sentences

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Thoughts and prayers hope you feel better soon you are so strong and brave 🙏🏼 🙏🏼

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Electric writing.

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"I learned quickly it was his ugliness I had to mirror to keep him interested, to make him feel alive. The rest of him was clearly six feet under. I began to wear his darkest parts as easily as if they were my own, slip them on each morning like some broken girl badge of honor disguise."

Damn. This^ This right here encapsulated the entirety of the word, somber. I instantly heard the guitar opening of Pink Floyd's, I Wish You Were Here. All too relatable. You have a way with words luv 🤙🏽

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Thank you J. Life has had a way with me so might as well.

Now I want to listen to Pink Floyd…

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