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Sep 26Liked by Sudana Krasniqi

I had a friend who had the kind of beauty that made everyone stop talking and look at her when she entered a room. She didn't even have to wear make-up or dress up; she turned heads in sweats and a t-shirt. And almost every guy I knew (myself included) were so intimidated by her beauty we wouldn't dare ask her out. So the only guys she seemed to go out with were egotistical jerks.

To show you what I mean, some friends and I (including my beautiful friend) were going out to dinner and a concert. I gave her a ride and we got to the restaraunt early and sat at the bar. While we were talking three different guys sent drinks over to her. Each time she didn't even look, she just told the bartender to send it back. I said "Why not at least look?" She said, "He's a jerk." I asked "How do you know?" She said, "Because I'm sitting here with you and he sent over a drink." Yikes! I realized she was right.

So double edged sword? Yeah. It cut both ways.

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Your friend was right. That was definitely disrespectful on the part of those other men, and good on her for not paying them any mind.

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Unfortunately, though, guys like that were the only ones with the confidence to pursue her…and she wasn’t quite forward enough to pursue a guy on her own.

I often wonder what happened to her. I hope she’s happy.

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>>>> "We have to walk around with the burden that we could destroy you with one small smirk, keep this to ourselves and then choose not to every day." Love that line.

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me too, thank you Jason

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I never understood how men got to run the world when they’re such slaves to their dicks. This fixes the glitch.

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Easy answer: womens' deepest power comes from sex, but mens' deepest power comes from violence.

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And also our getting basically disabled by the breeding process.

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Sep 27Liked by Sudana Krasniqi

They might want us but we need those bastards

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Because men are stronger and smarter than women.

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Ah, an inadequate male has arrived.

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Maybe, but that doesn't make me wrong.

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You probably can't handle fever

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Maybe, but that doesn't make me wrong.

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I loved this one so much! It's so playful, and fun, and fucking true! Every time I see another feminist whining about the patriarchy, or some bit-coin bro bragging about his portfolio, or whatever, I'm going to send them this. You women are the reason men do absolutely everything! You are the real axis around which the whole world turns.

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I’m so glad the playfulness came through. All in good fun!

As I’m on my way to work for the FIFTH time this week, I could use some good ol’ fashioned patriarchy right now.

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Sep 27·edited Sep 27Liked by Sudana Krasniqi

Haha. I remember talking to my Grandma at her kitchen table while my mom and her sisters were all standing around bitching about the patriarchy. When they all got up and left to smoke outside and probably bitch some more, they left my Grandma and me alone at the table. My Grandma just sighed and looking up, she lit a cigarette of her own, inhaled it and while she breathed out the smoke she just said quietly to herself, "I miss the patriarchy." Same grandma, same.

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me too Nana, me too …

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Sep 25Liked by Sudana Krasniqi

does the secret society know you're sharing this intel? you should lay low for a bit

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I feel like I’ve been on their radar for a while now anyways

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Grade A real talk.

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Sep 25Liked by Sudana Krasniqi

I fucking jumped when this notification came in

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laylaaaaa stop, I love you 🥹

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Sep 26Liked by Sudana Krasniqi

I really should have allowed myself to take better advantage of the pretty capital and power I wielded in my 20s. I strove against it. WHYYYYY.

*facepalms* Idiot.

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Julia it is never. too. late!

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One of my favorite quotes of all time is from Chuck Palahniuk’s Beautiful Monsters: “Beauty is powerful like a loaded gun is powerful.” On the money.

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Okay, all that's awesome. Now take away the men's toys, since they can't play nice in the sandbox, and assume your rightful, long overdue leadership. Please.

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No thanks, I’d rather take a nap

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Aw. But men are flushing your world down the toilet! :)

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You don’t know any women, do you?

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I know many women. Certainly enough to know they'd do a better job of stewarding the planet than we tripods.

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While I do believe the preponderance of criminality is perpetuated by males, the female can also be deadly. There is no guarantee your female rulers will be non toxic. I prefer to judge by criteria other than genitalia.

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Yeah, stats don't lie. The overwhelming majority of crimes against humanity have been perpetuated by men. But nice try trying to equalize the gender disparity. Females are quite clearly smarter and more compassionate than men. Statistically they are far more likely to do the right thing than men.

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Sep 25Liked by Sudana Krasniqi

I love the Patagonia vest reference. I feel like that when I see a Subaru in the hood.

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YEEEEAHHHHH. They Don't Want Us To Admit The Power We Hold.

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They should be thankful we half play along 😒

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Sep 26Liked by Sudana Krasniqi

Well done piece.

Sad, but many men will pay anything for a trophy wife.

The smart ones get a prenup: the great equalizer.

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Thank you Steve

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WOW! That was AWESOME and I love your take on things. You write how I think haha.

I love Mad men :) !!

I just learned about pretty privilege from substack the other week... I realized that was what I was doing when I was young..

Raised by women in a beauty salon I had earrings and a perm at 12. I read every Cleo, Cosmo, Vanity fair, Marie ann Claire, Girlfriend and Beau that came in. I watched and I studied. I was crazy for the girls from a young age... and I waited... and behaved.

In my 20s I was a great looking guy and I leveraged my knowledge to go after older women and provide them with a great time, friendship, good cooking, and listening. I had 5 relationships with women 10-15 years older than me... and it was my prefered method of survival...moving in with an older woman that would take care of me.

Money, nice car, place to stay that was clean, and intelligent conversation.

They didn't want to party, they were interested in getting ahead in life.

I feel kind of like I was doing what you were talking about in this essay...

No one can be mad at me for doing what women do all the time, or its sexist.

Is there a name for a young man that goes after older woman so his life can be easy... I wound up marrying one...

And then I wound up as a almost exclusively Women's Relationship counsellor, because listening to women is what I was good at...

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This made me smile, get it while you can man! Everybody wins, I say

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Yes, I’ve always known this. I’ve also experienced the power when I was at my thinnest and most desirable. Getting things was just that much easier.

Now I’ve gained weight and while I’d say I’m still above average, I’m significantly less so than when I was thinner and “playing the game” more.

Really makes my ED brain kick up, because while I no longer harm myself, there is truth that in our society being thinner is more attractive and more attractive is more powerful.

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Elizabeth thank you for your thoughtful comment. Half of this was in jest but we know there’s truth in there. As an ED survivor myself, I get triggered and start thinking the old “10lbs less would solve everything” bullshit noise. It took me decades to accept the body I’m in and I have my moments when I wake up and don’t always love her but she’s fucking mine and the only one I’ve got. She’s been pretty good to me so I figure it’s time I’m good back and use’er to my advantage.

Sending you love 🤍

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Sep 25Liked by Sudana Krasniqi

THAT’S my big sister!!! Nailed it, as always! 💅🏻

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satire but also maybe not really ;)

thank you amanda panda

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Sep 25Liked by Sudana Krasniqi

loll yess!! You’re a genius and i love you for that

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