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Anita's avatar

I feel this. It’s depressing not to be as thin as I used to be. When I was that thin, I felt invincible. And mysterious. Quite powerful.

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kiks's avatar

Yes I hate that there is such a feeling of power wrapped up in it. And I hate myself for missing it because that version of me was so broken and lost. But the power and control — intoxicating. Ugh.

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Faye Boam's avatar

this feeling of nostalgia for lighter, thinner day must be in the air - or maybe the dirt. such a gorgeous piece, Sudana. I've been reading you for a while and never know what to say because mostly I'm left speechleas. But this I had to leave a fe words of admiration for. thank you

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

definitely in the dirt, Faye.

thank you for your kind words.

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John Dzurak's avatar

Stumbled on your site. Your writing is gleefully insane. Good luck, young lady, from this old white guy.

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

Thank you John! “Gleefully insane” is a pretty damn near perfect description!

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vivienne mae's avatar

what a beautiful way of putting this feeling — I think for me, it used to be the contrast of becoming less and less as a way of hoping someone would see the heaviness that pulled me under when I was 17 and just craved something, anything I could control — something that society taught me was right, whatever their twisted definition was. just another way of hoping someone would see beyond your layers of silence and hear what you’re not saying.

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

There was definitely a huge aspect of control amidst a chaotic environment my childhood self was trying to make sense of.

I don’t think anyone really heard me though. Sometimes we just have to walk that path ourselves and create our own way out.

Thank you for reading and sharing your experience Viv.

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Alice Clara's avatar

You are amazing. Thank you for coming back to yourself and for being how you were meant to be.

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Jack Conlan's avatar

I’ll read anything you write. It’s that good. If I see that you wrote it, I’m reading it.

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Kevin Maher's avatar

This is a terrific piece of writing.

I’ve read Kundera. Just that book.

Enjoyed it. Loved this.

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

Thank you Kevin. That one is in my top 3 for sure.

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Kevin Maher's avatar

And it’s been a while, come to think of it, so I may reread it. Thanks for sharing this piece. . So well written !

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emma's avatar

reading this at work so i cannot cry but omg did this bring me to near-tears. I feel this on SO many levels. I'm trying to foster a healthier relationship with food and my body <3

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

I am too

Hoping this brought you some solace in knowing you arent alone 🤍

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Fran F's avatar

That hit hard. I’m struggling with self-image, weight, and everything… As I read one of the comments above, I miss how I felt when I had my prominent collarbones. I miss the girl I was. I wasn’t afraid

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

Thank you sharing your story Fran. You aren’t struggling alone. Much love 🤍

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BrainFudge's avatar

Wow, this is so beautiful and deep. I feel like you just said out loud what nobody dares to say about healing.

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Sophia's avatar

Piercingly beautiful read ❤️‍🔥

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

Thank you Sophia, it was quite the trip writing it

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AM Moon's avatar

I do. I do wanna get matching tattoos. 💜💜💜

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Frank Bard's avatar

Well rendered.

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Alejandra Elisabet's avatar

restacked with my thoughts. i loved this very much in more ways than you could realize. it’s comforting even though it’s uncomfortable. great work darling.

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

Thank you so much Alejandra. There’s something to be said about finding comfort in the uncomfortable.

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Alejandra Elisabet's avatar

agreed you’ve actually inspired a piece i’ve been putting off writing. i’ll tag you when it’s up.

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

write it, I’ll be the first to read it!

this piece came to me while I was at the gym Saturday morning and I felt particularly not skinny and not attractive and my hair was greasy and I was ready to end it all.

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Alejandra Elisabet's avatar

ooof heard tried taking a selfie after yoga dripping in fuuuuuucking sweat and looking like a fridge because my waist has definition but the obliques aren’t what i want them to be and my mid abs almost made me cry which at 29 seems genuinely ridiculous. i’ll send it to you to read it before i post it as i genuinely want your opinion as to met it matters as i love your writing and you.

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

You have abs 🥲

please send it, I’d be honored to read it 🤍

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Alejandra Elisabet's avatar

they’re not even proper abs, trust me haha. i’d send you a photo but i wouldn’t want you to feel that *switch* (you know the one haha) and cause bad thoughts. 2014 never ceases to leave me in even harmless progress pics and i definitely will beautiful girl. ♥️

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Frank T Bird's avatar

Solid work here, Krasniqi 🍀

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

Frank! Thank you, sir.

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emma girl's avatar

🤍🤍🤍amazing

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Sudana Krasniqi's avatar

Thank you Emma

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